Olanslim's Blog

Love is not what the movies and hit songs tell us it is.   Love doesn’t hurt. If it hurts it’s something else. Fear. Attachment. Idolatry. Addiction. Possessiveness.   Nobody’s heart aches out of love. In pop culture, love gets conflated with desire all the time. From childhood we learn you can like something, or you can love it, as if it’s only different degrees of the same thing.   Love is all selflessness. It’s the opposite of need and attachment. To an individual it’s a sensation of allowing , rather than seeking. Letting go, rather than grasping.   Love is subtle and silent and delicate, and in its beginnings it can be drowned out easily by attachment, lust and fear. Love must have space, and force is what crowds it out. Love is powerful but it isn’t forceful.   Desire is simple and often reckless. We need to manage it carefully to avoid causing harm. Desire is the intention to change something, to reject what it is in favor of what it could be — something better

To be single means to be separate, unique and whole. Many people have confused being single with being alone. When we are truly single we won’t be dependent on anyone to survive. Movies have become a source of inspiration to many and they feel what happens in movies should happen to them too and so they rush into relationships when they are not yet whole and dependent. Love is not being emotionally dependent on someone, instead of getting or thinking of relationship get single. Never let there be someone you can’t do without. Singleness is a state to be pursued, not a state to be avoided, it is when you get to a realization that you are whole and unique that you can get into a relationship where you won’t be emotionally dependent. You should not be an emotional liege. Until you achieve being single, don’t give yourself away, if you do, you are giving yourself as a liability. You should give yourself as an asset. Stop looking for someone to complete you, you are complete in

  He has an ego.(Don't bruise a man's ego) If he wants you, he'll let you know; if he likes you, he'll show you. He has a tendency to cheat but all men don't cheat. Every man has a woman that He wants to be with. If not you, you are insurance . (Jack knows the difference between what he wants and what he needs). A man always wants to provide. Men like to observe rather than talk. A man is a rational thinker. (Men: 1+1=2; Women: 1+1=1000).   A man would value you more when you are not easy and desperate.   Every Jack is looking for a woman He can proudly call his queen.   Jacks love girls with brains more than girls in miniskirts. ……..sometimes.

She is not a rational thinker. (She thinks mainly with her emotions).  If she likes you, she would let you know. When she loves, she loves for real. Jills don't usually cheat, when they do there's a long story. They don't like to share their men. Women like to talk a lot and give lot of info.(Jacks try to listen). She has already written a movie, starred in it and you are auditioning a role of husband in the movie titled " HER MARRIAGE ". No matter how spiritual, romance not sex, she likes it. She loves her anniversary; anniversaries . (Jacks try to always remember). She is looking for a king, someone she can willingly give herself to.